Beyond the Bullying:For those who've been bullied
***Open to join now – programme begins on 24th October 2022***
THE PROGRAMME FOR THOSE WHO’VE BEEN BULLIED TO HELP YOU RECOVER, REBUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE & FEEL HAPPY AGAIN AFTER YOU’VE BEEN BULLIED
Imagine knowing what to do, how to change your thoughts and feelings to enable you to not only recover from the trauma of being bullied, but to be able to feel happy, confident and full of self-belief once again
If you’re reading this, then the likelihood is that you’ve experienced being bullied. This may be recent, or it may have been something which happened in the past which is still looming over you, consuming your thoughts and impacting on your happiness, confidence and ability to be you once again.
As someone who’s been in this exact position, I know that when you’ve been bullied it literally shakes apart the world you thought you knew. It changes how you think, what you think you know about yourself and others and can impact so many different parts of your life.
I’m so sorry you have had this experience and I want you to know I’m here to help.
The Beyond the Bullying programmes originally came about because my little boy was being bullied at school and there was nothing to support me as his parent to help him recover, I then discovered that not only was there nothing to support parents of those being bullied, there was very little around to help anyone who’d been bullied to recover and rebuild their confidence and self-esteem and be themselves once again. So this programme was created to help those, who like me, have been bullied.
I’ve experienced bullying as a child, in work (several times) and more recently online and as a parent to a child being bullied at school. There isn’t a decade of my life which hasn’t been touched or impacted by bullying and I truly understand and appreciate the range of feelings, thoughts and emotions which bullying has on those who’ve been bullied.
All any of us want is to be happy, to be able to be ourselves, to work towards achieving the dreams and hopes we have for our lives. This can be true even when you’ve been bullied, you potentially just need the help, support and some tricks and tools to help you.
Being bullied changes not only how we see the world, but how we see ourselves within it.
We may become less sure of ourselves, less confident, need more reassurance, become quieter perhaps or more withdrawn, we may become worried or anxious, they can start questioning who we are and whether we are worthy, good or perhaps different and unlovable.
We can develop a different view of our capabilities and start questioning whether we can do things we wanted to do or achieve the dreams we had in their mind for our future. It may change the activities we do, what we wear and how we show up at school, at work or within our friendship groups. It can impact the life choices we make when considering jobs we apply for, promotions we’d love to have, relationships we’re in and much more.
Sadly, if you’ve been bullied, you’re not alone in your experience, but it’s not enough to know that, we need to take back the control our happiness and wellbeing and free ourselves from the shadow bullying may be having over your life.
Currently around 25% – 29% experience bullying every year. This could be at school, at work, within our families or communities, in groups we belong to or activities or sports we undertake or online. Bullying can happen anywhere, at any time, to anyone.
Who am I & why should you learn from me?
I’m Kat, mum of one, and I’ve experienced bullying in every decade of my life. As a child, as an adult and now as a parent too.
My background has included working for charities (including one of the biggest children’s charities in the UK), founding and running my own social enterprise and supporting people with their physical and mental health and wellbeing.
I’ve done training with some of the biggest universities in positive psychology including Yale and University of Pennsylvania to ensure these programmes are based on the best science currently available to help manage our emotions, stress and to be able to take control of our happiness and help others to do so too.
I created this and the other Beyond the Bullying programmes because everything I could find which related to bullying only talked about either what we do to prevent or reduce it, or how damaging it was.
The question for me was what happens to those who’ve been affected.
When I couldn’t find anything, I created it.
My mission is simple: to help all those who’ve been affected by bullying to be able to rebuild their confidence, self-esteem and happiness to be able to live the life they dreamed off before they were bullied (or perhaps even to inspire them to dream even bigger and achieve even more).
I’m here to help in any way I can. I’ve been there, I’ve experienced it first hand and I’ve learned what we can all do to help ourselves and others who’ve been affected.
It’s time we took back control of our lives, rid ourselves of the shadows of bullying and learn to thrive once again.
The life-changing topics included in the programme are:
>> Critical thinking: enabling us to question what we see and hear and learn to dig a little deeper
>> Positive self-talk: so we can quieten down that negative voice in our heads and replace it with one which helps us to feel a little more amazing
>> Optimism: we can all learn to be more optimistic and really is one of the most life-changing things we can teach our children
>> How to rate behaviour and not ourselves: so we can see that we do things sometimes things which weren’t our best choice or were even unkind or ‘bad’, that we all make mistakes, but none of that changes who we are as a person
>> Forgiveness: how forgiving ourselves and others can release us from the hurt, frustration and anger continuing to control our lives
>> Resilience: learning how we can bounce back from the challenges life throws at us so we can thrive at life and cope with whatever comes our way
>> Self-care: and why it’s not selfish but absolutely essential to protect our wellbeing and to enable us to be our very best selves
>> Thankfulness or appreciation: because it’s contagious and can be thrown around like confetti to make every house, school, company and community a happier place to be
>> Random acts of kindness: so you can boost the happiness of yourself, your family and other people all around you and prove good things really can happen to anyone, anywhere and for no other reason other than to be kind and caring